Can you re-fall in love with a high school sweetheart?
My high school sweatheart lives in the same region as I've moved to (he doesn't know it, and I did NOT move to the region because of him.. he moves a lot). I have not told him I moved, because I wanted to make sure that 1) he was single and 2) that I really wanted to renew the relationship first.
We've kept in touch over the years, usually just text messages and occasional calls. I haven't seen him in over 5 years. We dated in high school for about 2 years.
We hardly know each other anymore. Are we in love with each other as high school kids, but not adults? I care about him, and like him, but maybe I like the "old" him and not who he is now (since I don't know him that well anymore).
He's said that he wants to see me, still has feelings for me, and "wants to have values that mean something, I (he) pick you." He broke up with a woman in January (she cheated on him, and she's just had a baby).
He's a sweet guy, and I still have feelings for him, too. Is this the 17 year old in me, or can you really still be compatible with a high school boyfriend.. after not having seen them in years? Could it be that I have fond memories, but friendship would be best? Should I hang out with him? I don't want to date and it not work out and ruin the friendship. But, I don't know that I want to "let him go" either. I also don't want to jump in a relationship just because it's "there" and I'm depressed.
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