I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months, we both discuss marriage and know that it's in our future. But no matter what i do, i feel like my attraction to so many other men is terrible. i feel like i maybe wasn't meant to be in just one relationship, because i can admit that i'm selfish. i want everything. But mostly, i just want sexual relations with other men. I used to think it was the fact that i wanted what i couldn't have, but it's beyond that. Even worse, i don't want to stop. i feel like if i get the chance, i will sleep with one of these guys that i think about. One is my co-worker, there's an age difference of about 10 years, but the attraction to him is so unbearable that i don't know what to do. There's also another man that i will always feel like i should've been with. I stood by his side playing the friend role for over a year, just for him to join the military and walk away. he's been in the military for about 6 months, and i just found out that he's wanted me all along. I've always believed that if you feel a certain way about someone else, to tell them. But he was the only one i couldn't tell. I fantasize about him too. I NEVER think sexually about my boyfried, i just don't desire him in that way. But i'm constantly thinking about the kind of sex i could have with the other men. Help me?
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