My boyfriend tells me he loves me, and how a wonderful girlfriend I am. However, I was over at his house, and I checked his phone and found out that the night he said he was going to be busy at work, he hung out with some girl. He text messaged her after he called me that day, and asked her to hang out. She agreed, and I'm estimating they hung out for at least five hours because when he said he couldn't pick up his phone when I called I checked the time. When he called me back he said he was in the restroom because he didn't want his bosses to see him on the phone at work. He told me he would call me in a bit. He called me when he supposedly got home, but I'm guessing that is when she left. I don't think that the whole time she was there she knew that he text messaged me or called me. When I confronted him, he acted like a jerk and was saying things like "oh I can't have friends?" and stuff like that, and just being defensive. I started crying and was yelling at him. We fought for a bit and I told him that it's over, and he was like whatever about it. When I tried to leave he wouldn't let me, he admitted to being wrong and apologized. He said that she doesn't mean anything to him. He said it was a big mistake and nothing happened, they are just friends. I was so angry and hurt because I am always fighting with him to get time with him. I'm in such shock right now because I would have never known, and I could have not guessed that he would do something like this, and he went through all this trouble as far as lying to me, skipping work, and renting movies to watch with her. Before all this he treated me pretty well, and always said he loved me. In fact the night he hung out with her he text messaged me saying how sexy I was and how he loves me. When I talked to him on the phone he said he loved me. How can someone say that to their girlfriend, while hanging out with another girl? I met her once last year, but I don't even know her. I'm so hurt and angry he went through all that trouble to hang out with her, and his excuse was that I would flip out. I would be okay with it if I was there too. I don't see why a guy should want to hang out with another girl that is not his girlfriend. Especially since my boyfriend is all about hanging out with his boys and what not. I feel that he has a thing for her, but he says that it was the biggest mistake and that it was not worth losing me over it. What am I supposed to do? Do I forgive him or walk away? I don't think I can trust him again because he was such a good actor.
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