Avatar Posted by anthony5957 115 days ago (Question)
I began seeing a close girl friend of 5 years or "hanging out" (as she likes to call it although we were doing everything normal couples do) about 2 months ago. We both agreed to take our time.We were spending lots of time together for awhile. She did break up with a boyfriend of a few years 4 months ago. Again we've gotten really close. All of the sudden starting about a month ago she gradually became distant, stopped talking, not being together as much as we were. I've tried talking to her and asking if she is avoiding me? What can I do? what did I do? She barely answers the phone or texts etc. I have pretty much backed off.She says she's not avoiding me...and that's she's been reconnecting with old friends and doing different things. I completely understand that after her previous situation but if you care for someone at all I think you should try to see each other or at least talk when possible. Sorry I feel hurt,angry, frustrated, and like a chump. What's really going on? Our mutual friends tell me to hang in there but don't seem to know anything. I planned this big event for her birthday next month but am beginning to think I should cancel even though I've put a lot of effort and thought into it. HELP!!!


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Written by bellacutie 114 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

From your post it sounds like your friend is apprehensive to make a full committment or perhaps doesn't want a serious relationship. The reason I assume this, is the first line of your post states the time you spend together as 'hanging out(as she likes to call it)' - like friends do. You known her for 5 yrs - would you classify this as just friends only - are you having sex with her?

Maybe you consider this more serious than her?? Is it pssible you could have a talk with her to find out if where your relationship stands? You can express that you feel confused with the change that's happened. Has she experienced a bad relationship before. As far as the birthday - I can't tell you what to do about that. Sorry you feel hurt and frustrated. Hope you feel better.

Written by Clyde 114 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

It sounds like she may not want to make a commitment or is worried about carrying it too far too fast.

Talk to her and see where you stand, that is about the only way around it if you want to know the true answer.

Best,

Clyde


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