I have been married for 17 years and suspect my wife of having BPD. She lies often, has an explosive temper, is a compulsive shopper and our sex life is poor (and getting worse). I have stayed with her because we have 2 kids that love her, but I suspect things will get much worse for all if we divorce. Although the arguments and financial issues have been bad, the poor sex life leaves me frustrated and unsupportive. I got her to go to therapy early in our relationship and it helped, but in 1999, I found out she had herpes and it devestated what little we had. She proved to me that she got it before we married, but it has been difficult to get over the fact she hid it from me for so long and we now add this to a long list of other problems. Any suggestions would be appreciated.