My husband and I have been married for 8 years. It is his 4th and my second. When we met he insisted on being the only one to cut and color my hair. He also liked to cut it during sex. After we were married it progressed into wanting to give me a buzzcut with clippers and now he wants me to go bald. I can't do it. I felt so ashamed and ugly with the buzzcutt and embarassed. We have not been intimate in 10 months because it is too "blah" and "boring" unles I let him have his way. I lost my job a year ago and went into major depression and he was the one to stand by me and pick up the pieces. But thanks to antidepressants I feel alive and in control again and now he says he loves me and wants to stay together BUT - if he were to meet me now he would have never fell for me. We've been to counseling. He blames everything on me. Oh and one more thing just before I had my breakdown I went and had my hair cut and colored by a professional during the workday. He drove to my work and left his wedding ring on my seat with a "for sale" tag and wrote " See Ya Bye " I don't think we can make it. I've even had an affair to prove to myself that I'm not boring. What to do? The economy is keeping us in the same house now but we sleep in seperate bedrooms.
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