Avatar Posted by veroniqueb 85 days ago (Question)
Hi

i have been married to my husband for 6 years and have 2 beautifull kids, we have been living with his parents for that long and i feel that we cannot break away from there hold especialy him, i get upset as he chooses their side and make me the bad person and do not take responsibility for his actions, i feel that they are taking his side although they say they are not, but blood is thicker than water, his sister and mother say things behind my back to him and he is to scared to say anything becasue we are staying with them,

i am useless and tired of this situation, they want me to leave i know it, should i take my kids with me? i dont really have a place to go to.

please help me, should i change my ways?


Answers


Chemar
85 days ago
Hi

as we just don't know the whole story here it is very hard to comment. So I have a number of questions:

What "ways" are you asking if you should change? Why should you leave? and why would you even consider leaving your children!

Why are you staying with his parents? For financial reasons? Even when family stay together like this, the parents need to respect the marriage relationship of their child and your husband's first duty is to you, his wife, and your children. Not to his parents, although yes, he should still treat them respectfully, but not to the point of disrespecting you.

Have you suggested to him that you should find a place of your own? Even renting an inexpensive place would be a start.

I think you should suggest to your husband that the 2 of you need to go for marital counseling where all this can be discussed away from their influence.
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Destarknight
84 days ago
My only question is: have you talked to him about this? If not that would be the best first step. He will let you know alot based on how he answers. If it's financial take the above advice. If it turns into an arguement he has some things that he needs to figure out, the top one being who he wants to be with. The woman he married and started a family with, or the his parents who raised him to be a man.
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gypsy317
81 days ago
He should be sticking up for you. I would definitely talk (calmly as possible) with him about the way you have been feeling to figure out your next steps.
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ac72
62 days ago
You should be looking for an alternate living situation. Moving in, even as a married adult with children, can sometimes put a person to feel like they did when they were younger, which could be bolstered by the parents refusal to see their child as a grown up. You should speak with him, and only him, about the things bothering you. If he doesn't see it as a problem, then a more drastic step may need to taken.
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