Avatar Posted by mbrown0722 304 days ago (Question)
I often have dream of death to my ex-husban we have been married for 15 years. and my marrage was very unhealthy and filled with lots of voilence mental and physical abuse. In my dreams I dream of him comming to me to hurt me but I never follow through with the act of hurting him. Why? Why doe I dream of him so much. I must say I have lots of Ill will toward him and I do wish harm to him but can't follow through because of my children.


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Written by claudia 304 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi, when I was in my early 20's I dreamed I wanted to kill my father with a knife. I guess I was very angry with him at the time. I hated him. But in reality, of course, I would never do such a thing. Residual fear and anger can enter our dream states when we sleep. You must find a way of reconciling yourself to this experience in your life. Are you in any actual danger from him at any time? If so, you must help yourself by, for example, obtaining a restraining order. Something like that might give you peace of mind. Maybe you have to move away. Whatever it is that will give you peace is worth doing. It just depends what your situation is. My dreams of killing my father eventually went away and to get rid of the guilt I felt, I went to confession with a priest. Whatever it takes.

Written by Clyde 304 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

You probably still have feelings of attachment with him coupled with the feelings of anger and guilt from previous experience with him, which makes you dream what you dream.

I hope you stop dreaming this soon.

Best,

Clyde


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