Avatar Posted by escuro 40 days ago (Question)
There's this guy I met at work about a year a go and he was dating someone else at the time, but as our relationship progressed, i started falling in love with him and by the time i realized what had happened I was in way to deep.

While I was falling in love with him, i was seeing someone else. I have Borderline. I have been struggling with it for quite some time. I have hurt a lot of other people including my, at the time, boyfriend. I hurt him so bad that he wouldn't sleep next to me, touch me, or even look at me. Please don't give me the speech about Borderlines hurting themselves being impulsive and blah, blah, blah. Thanks. Been there, got that memo. Well when i was hurting everyone around me it go to the point that I knew what i was doing but i couldn't stop! I'd try to and end up being an emotional wreck after whatever impulsive/ self-destructive thing i was doing was done.
Anyway him and split up and i moved out. Well the guy that I was interested in was still seeing his girlfriend even though things were going badly for them. The continued to date until the past week even though he'd come over to see me while she was at work.

Well, I was ecstatic that the finally broke up. I figured him and I have a good relationship, he like me and i care a great deal for him. I got home from work one morning and felt myself kind of pushing away from him. That's when I realized that I was pushing away because I didn't want to hurt him the way i have hurt everyone else that I love in my life. I want to be with him so bad that my heart hurts and i put myself in tears, but i cant bring myself to tell him that we can be in a relationship. I mean I honest to god think that ive found the man i want to spend the rest of my life with and i cant bring myself to commit.

How am I supposed to overcome this feeling of non commitment and the fear of hurting him and myself again?


Answers

Written by Clyde 39 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Does he know about your borderline? If not, why not tell him. Explain to him hiw what is up, and how you are feeling.

You should be happy that you think and feel you have met the man you want to spend the rest of your life with--dont let him go--fight for him!

Help "teach" him about borderline. Print out information and let him read it. Let him ask you questions.

Dont give up!

Best,

Clyde


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