I have been dating a woman that I am totally in love with for 7 months. I moved into her place and have been living with her the last 2 months. Everything is fine between us, with the exception that we argue about small insignificant things often. When we argue about these things, it turns into us not really talking to each other and lasts way longer than it should. We both are stubborn people and have trouble stopping the escalation of these arguments once they start.
Example #1: My gf works late, and I usually wait until she gets home to eat ( I cook dinner and have it ready when she gets there). If we are not eating together, we usually let the other know. Recently, however, there was a night that she went shopping after work instead of coming home to eat. She sent me a text as she was leaving work saying she was going shopping. I was upset at that point because I had waited for her to eat. When she got home, she made herself something to eat and as she was doing that asked me what I ate. Being upset, I said I wasn't really hungry. We didn't talk much at all because she could tell I was upset and we went to sleep. That argument carried over to the next day.
Example #2: We make it a point to give each other a kiss hello and goodbye as the 1st thing we do when we walk in the door and the last thing we do before we walk out it. One evening she came in and did not stop by to give me one. I tried to jokingly ask where my kiss was, but it turned into an argument. We didn't talk a whole lot the rest of the night.
99% of these arguments occur during the week when we are not with each other a lot because of the long hours she has to work as an attorney. In example #2, it turns out she was stressed from a long day at work and getting ready for a trial. We rarely have issues on the weekends when we are with each other and have time to spend together.
Due to the frequency of these little fights, she says she is wondering is she is actually IN love with me. She says that she wonders this all day the next day after one of these little fights when we go to bed not talking much. These little fights do not weigh on me as much, and I rarely dwell on them the next day.
What does this mean for our relationship if we have no problems on the weekends when we are together, but have frequent little fights during the week? Is there something we can do to avoid these or does it mean we are not compatible as a couple? She is currently deciding whether she wants to continue in this relationship and I am searching for solutions so that we can stay together.
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