Avatar Posted by jenson 259 days ago (Question)
I’m in a long term relationship, of 5 years, with my partner. We are a lesbian couple. From the beginning of our relationship I told my partner that I don't have a very good libido and that most of my ex g/f's have left me because of this.My g/friend is a great person and she means everything to me and I love her very much. About 1 to 2 years into our relationship I lost my desire to have sex. Now because of me we don't have a sex life. I have no desire to have sex with anyone, and don't masturbate. This is going to ruin yet another one of my relationships and I don't want to loose her.

I asked my Dr about it about 2.5 years ago and I had some tests done. I was diagnosed with Poly cystic ovaries and was told this could be a reason for the low libido. My Dr said that not a lots was known about this disease, but it was common.

Could this be the reason and if so is there a way I can try and fix the problem before it ends my relationship


Answers

Written by bellacutie 259 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi Jenson,

I'm sorry you're having a hard time. I'm not a doctor and I'm not sure of your age. If I were you I would ask for a complete physical including bloodwork to measure all your hormone levels and endocrine levels. If your hormone levels are not where they should be then this could directly affect your libido. Also tell your doctor that you also want to know your testosterone levels as well (yes we women also have testosterone- some people don't know this). Make sure you have a good rapore with your doctor and that he or she understands your concerns and is willing to work with you to find an answer. If your hormone levels are off because of the poly cystic ovary condition then your doctor needs to address this. Best of luck to you and your partner.

Written by jenson 259 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Thanks for your response. I am 36 years old, I will have to find a Doctor I can talk to again as my last one has moved away.

Written by Francesca 258 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Eat more zinc.

Written by Edahn 258 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Is there something about sex that turns you off? (Rather than just not turning you on?)

If not, then maybe getting some exercise and eating red meat would help. Talking to your doctor is a great idea, though.

Written by Clyde 254 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

It definitely does sound like a good possibility why you are not having any sex.

Is/are there any other psychological issues going on that you can think of to talk to the doctor about?

Best,

Clyde


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