My sister is 53 years old. She has lived with my mother all of her life. My Mother died 2 years ago. My father died 20 years ago. My sister has been living in my mothers house alone for 3 years now.
She has not gotten a job and has never worked more than 6 months in her entire life.
My other sister and I have been trying to get her to do something to generate an income most of our lives.
We have been sending money to her and my mother for years.
In the past few years the economy has forced myself and my other sister, who recently lost her job, to cut back on sending money to the sister who has lived off my mother and us all of her life.
I have provided her with many ways to generate an income at home and I have offered as much support as I can financially.
She is going to be evicted from the house next month and has been aware that this was going to happen for the last 2 years. She has sold everything of my mothers that had any value, that is what she has been living on the past couple of years.
A few months ago I had to cut her off money wise. Between helping them to cover their house taxes and expenses over the past 10 years and struggling to keep my one person business afloat I just couldn't give any more with out hurting myself. I am now in debt to the tune of $30,000 plus, and have major financial needs myself.
To help her I would have to go into more debt. I live 1,000 miles from her and I am at a loss as to what to do.
I care about her a great deal and I am scared to death of her being homeless, and I also know that if I let her move in with my partner and I that she will never leave.
We went through this a few years ago with an Uncle who moved in and wouldn't work or pay for anything and finally I had to kick him out.
I know that my sister is going to call me in a panic for money, she has already asked my other sister for more money and she had to refuse because she was laid off few weeks ago and can't afford to give her any money until she has a new job. I don't have an extra penny to offer.
The homeless sister believes that people owe her. She has been begging money from churches and food pantrys and any place else that she can. She spends more time begging than it would take to just get a job and work, but now it's too late. I don't know what to say to her and really can't afford to move her across the country to live with me in a place she frankly would rather never even visit. She hates the Desert and I live in S. AZ. I feel giving her anything else will be enabling her just as my Mom did her entire life.
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