Hello, I'm 18 years old and having alot of trouble being intimate with girls. I know this probably sounds weird coming from a guy but I was sexually abused for my last 2 years of high school by a girl. We were good friends all of sophomore year and towards the end she started wanting to hold my hand, sit on my lap, and wouldn't let me go anywhere without her. She started telling other people we were dating which didn't bother me too much at first. I spent that summer about 100 miles away to be with my grandma and she said she wanted to just be friends. That same night she calls me at 2 am breathing hard and says "I want you". I was confused so I didn't say anything and she said "Hey! Did you hear me?" I said yes so she said, "Do you want me?" in a very agressive tone. I just hung up and the next moring I had about 10 new messages of her saying she would kill herself if I didn't talk to her. That went on all summer and my junior year she would always come up and start rubbing on me and kissing me and when I didn't respond she would slap me or hit me. Senior year was the worst. She would try to get me to have sex with her during our lunch and she would grab my genitals and threaten to tell the school that I had a gun if I tried to break up with her. I wasn't able to date any of the girls I liked and she would touch me to the point where I felt like I was being molested. I tried a number of things to get her to leave me alone from asking her to cussing at her to threatening to press charges to ignoring her. She just wouldn't quit. Finally after graduation I moved in with my grandma and she stayed back. I don't talk to her anymore of course but now I am having a very difficult time being intimate with girls. I've had one break up with me 'cause I wouldn't have sex and my current one is worried that it's something she did and that I don't want to touch her. I have no idea how to explain this to her and how to get over my issues with intimacy. I just get so angry now everytime I'm touched by anyone and I need some ways to overcome this. Any ideas? Thank you.
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