My boyfriend has a fear of sex. He gets panic attacks anytime we attempt to have sex and even in foreplay. We've been together for almost two years and I can count on one hand the number of times he's been able to maintain an erection when we fool around. He tells me that it's nothing to worry about when I try and talk to him about it and avoids any sex related questions altogether. His lack of physical interest in me often makes me feel unappreciated, unattractive, and like maybe its just me he isn't into. It's doing quite the number on my self esteem.
So I guess my specific question is two fold. One, how do I help him get over his fear without making the relationship awkward or feeling like I'm pressuring him?
And two, how do I not feel like crap about myself because of his lack of interest?
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