I am married w/2 kids and love my wife dearly, over the past 4 months I have seen a change in her. She was alive, loud, confident and interested in sex. Now I found out she was having an emotional affair. I know that it never got beyond kissing and she broke it off before I found out. I gathered evidence and I confronted her and she admitted it. She told me that he lit something in her, made her feel sexy and like a woman, not just a mom and wife.
My problems are as follows:
She still sees the guy occasionally at work, and him still lurking out there bothers me.
I want to confront him, but she wishes I wouldn't because of the embarrassment.
How do I trust her again, she seems upset but only because of the inconvenience, she is not being as tender or reassuring as I would like and I am for the first time very needy of her love.
Part of me is thinking that if she cant be here for me now in my time of need, perhaps I should get out of this.
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