The next incident occurred when he went to a conference in Las Veagas, of all places. I discovered rapid fire instant messages between them which were being sent under the noses of me and the kids - on Valentine's Day. From one of his replies to me: "I haven’t had an affair, and it’s ridiculous to continue to assert that I have. An “emotional affair” is just nonsense, the kind of pseudo-psychological-sin that they use to whip up the neuroses of readers of women’s monthlies--might as well accuse me of having an emotional affair with Mike ..... because of our long bull sessions over coffee and beer and cheeseburgers (I spent far more time with Mike last week than with Jami). I really enjoyed that time--did a lot of science, talked a lot of smack, etc. Even had a lot of humorous texts and emails throughout the meeting."
Before these incidents our relationship was in a bad place - for the both of us. He made the choice to involve other women. I didn't.
He eludes to the fact that he should get credit for not letting it go any further with these women - like he's the hero. How can I move past these incidents when he doesn't think he's done anything wrong?