I have been feeling recently that it is time for me to break up with my girlfriend of nine months. She loves me, and absolutely does not want to break up with me, but we seem to be arguing more and more as time goes on (almost every night on the phone this past month we have been up for hours just arguing/complaining), and as if this was not enough of a reason to, i do not have some of the feeling for her that i used to have, and i think she may somewhat know that but maybe be in denial. Also,I am entering my senior year of high school in a few weeks and want to have as good of a time as i can, and i feel that if I'm still with her she will most likely be bringing me down a lot. She is entering her sophomore year, and though she does not fully realize it, i have come to find out (after being away at a camp for about a week and a half) that we most likely will not last once i leave for college, because of the distance and lack of time to talk to eachother, and i feel that it may be best to end things now (august) rather than do it over the school year. That way, any drama that follows can hopefully die down before school starts. But there are two big issues :
1. I have never broken up with anyone before, don't know how to do it, and know that I still love her and therefore will have a very hard time doing so, and
2. She is both depressed and suicidal (partly because of recently being told off and ultimately shunned by her two best friends, and partly, i believe, though she hasn't credited this as a reason, because of a childhood that was filled with physical and sexual abuse, and the absence of her father). She recently took too many pills on purpose (she claims it was only 4 or 5), not necesarily to kill herself, but i think maybe subconciously she wanted to scare herself. I don't honestly think her committing suicide is likely, but if i break up with her (she often says i'm the only good thing left in her life) I will worry that she'll do it. What should i do?
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