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bella
889 days ago
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Have you had a positive pregnancy test or confirmation by a doctor? How far long are you? That's a hard question because I don;t know how your parents will react. The only way is to sit them down and tell them calmly. What does your boyfriend think? How do you feel?

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AshleyJoan93
889 days ago

Well I have not taken the test yet. But I'm pretty sure that I am. I guess it's an instinct. And my parent's can be pretty strict, and it's only because they want the best for me though. And I know I've messed up pretty badly, and I feel awful.

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AshleyJoan93
889 days ago

Also, my boyfriend doesn't really have a problem with it other than the fact, he's going to a little scared when my Dad finds out. My boyfriend has a job, and his own place, and with him being 20, I think he's ready to have a baby. I'm just not too sure if I'm ready yet. But abortion is not an option and neither is adoption.

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bella
889 days ago

I suggest strongly to get a verification before you discuss this with your parents. Is there a teen health center you could go to. If not, get an at home pregnancy test and follow the instructions carefully. The first step in to verify this and then move onto the next step of telling your parents. If you're not pregnant, then I will have a friendly talk about birth control LOL :) Having a baby is a huge reponsibilty and it's always preferred, if you wait until you finish your education. If you are pregnant, it's good to know you plan on keeping your baby and it's better if you get support and encouragement from your parents. Make sure you get proper pre-natal care and take a pre-natal vitamin. Please let us know the results - okay dear?

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twentytroubles
889 days ago

Instinct is meaningless. Get a test and test yourself, or go to somewhere like Planned Parenthood for a test. P.S.- Most 20 year olds aren't ready to have kids these days. It takes much, much more than your own apartment and job to even be remotely prepared to have a child.

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AshleyJoan93
888 days ago

Well I was on the depo shot until about a month ago, because I wanted to switch to the pill due to side affects. And I'm going to take a test here real soon.

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iKitty
888 days ago

Hey, Ashley! I am a 36 year old with an 18 year old son. If you do the math, you'll realize I had the same predicament as you about 18 years ago. I had very strict parents and I was very scared. I had my mother take me to the Dr. for some lame reason and while there, I requested a pregnancy test from the nurse in secret. I was pregnant and had to tell both parents. I was very scared but deep inside I knew they would be disappointed in me at first but always love me. Sure enough, years later, I can look back and say it was HARD to continue to go through high school as a pregnant teen and then a mother to a child, but I'm very glad I did it and I was the same as you--adoption or abortion were not options for me. I had good times and bad but through it all I'm very thankful. My parents were my BIGGEST supporters and fans and now I've been on my own for some time and I don't regret it. Yes, it wasn't planned, but my son is about to graduate and I have a daughter that's 12 and I'm still going strong. If you are a believer, take this to prayer and see if that helps...but don't be scared to tell the truth and to be who you are. You can admit it was a mistake to make that choice during the switch of medications you have had but that baby you might be carrying doesn't have to be the mistake. I wish you luck and light and hope that all goes well.

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AshleyJoan93
888 days ago

iKitty.

Thanks, you really helped me more than you'll ever know. I am a junior in highschool this year and will be 17 soon, and I don't have any intentions on dropping out. And I know my parent's will always be there for me, I'm just really scared and ashamed to actually tell them. I have a doctors appointment on January 4th, to get on the pill. And they will give me a pregnacy test while I'm there, its manditory they say. But if I am, that's how my parent's are going to find out. I just can't really find the words to tell the. And by then I should know whether I am or not anyways so I can prepare myself. And if I am pregnant, I would never call my baby a mistake, what I did wasn't even a mistake just a bad choice, but my baby would never be a mistake. Thanks for your advice, I really and truley appreciate it.

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