Avatar Posted by eezyontheiyz 265 days ago (Question)
So, I was dating my love for years, 4 off and on but mostly on...

December 2nd, he called, and i missed his call. I never talked to him again.

He lives in cali, I in az...

This happened once before and he showed up at my door three months later, but this time, he wont answer calls, emails, texts, etc...

I go through these moods, happy, sad, and like tonight i sent him five or six messages...

He gets them, he ignores them... How do I let go. He is not coming back... I know this. I knew this when he wouldnt return my call on Dec. 2nd.

Any advice....I feel like someone ripped out my heart.

And I'm not a teenager...Im a grown woman, we were going to buy a house together...


Answers

Written by Edahn 265 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I just went through a break up myself. At first, it looks like life can't go on. You think about the person all the time. Like you said, your emotions are all over the place. You check whether you did everything right. It looks hopeless.

But after a while, after doing EXACTLY what you're doing, things start to calm down. You get waves of silence and calm followed by waves of chaos and longing. But more and more, the calm waves grow longer in duration. Eventually, you have enough calm to examine the situation and you find some kind of peace: maybe that it wasn't really right, or that there's someone better out there, or that even if it was right, it doesn't matter and you can move on.

What you're going through is totally healthy and part of the process. If it helps you, you can try writing a letter to him in your journal about how much you're hurting. You can decide to send it or keep it for yourself.

I'm sorry. You'll be okay though. *hug*

Written by shaman 265 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

When two people come together and join they actually do just that ! I would suggest that you envisage your ex opposite you and all connections being cut and given back and the marks being healed, use the strength of the mind when doing this.

Written by Clyde 257 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I really like what Edahn says. Letting the other person know how you feel even if they dont let you know is important. It helps to get it "off your chest" a bit and off your mind.

Best,

Clyde


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