Avatar Posted by Pheobe 51 days ago (Question)
Me and my boyfriend have been together a little over a year now and been living together for about 5 or 6 months. We took things pretty slow...We started out as friends in May of last year, we started dating that following august (also when we first had sex), i moved in with him in, i think march. He told me he loved for the first time this past may :) ... I love him so much and would do anything for him. but his ex girlfriend has texted him a couple of times and he's seen her around town, she even came up and talked to him a few times...i know im just jealous and i know i shouldnt be but i cant help it. Hes the greatest thing thats happened to me. I trust him with all my heart but theres still something inside me tellin me to watch out. I dont want my jealousy to ruin us...He's asked me to stop texting my ex's and i want to ask him to do the same but he cant help it if she just keeps popping up....idk this is driving me crazy......he always tells me that "of course i look at other girls but i dont tell them i love them like i do you, i come home every night with you not them." "i like to go to strip bars but your the one i will always come home to baby." ... I know he loves me so why am i always worried he will leave me or cheat on me???.......


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Written by Chemar 50 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I think what you are feeling is very normal. We all tend to have those feelings related to ex's etc

the important thing to focus on tho is that he is with you and has told you he loves you and that as far as you know he is not being unfaithful to you.

when you feel the jealousy rising...just try to remember that it is only a feeling, with no fact to base it on

if he has asked you to stop contact with your ex boyfriends, I dont think it unreasonable for you to gently ask him to try to avoid his ex too as much as it is up to him. obviously he cant be blamed if she seeks him out, but he can limit his responses, or he can just nicely let her know he is with you now and would prefer not having contact with her, as he has asked you to do with your ex's

hope that helps a bit

Written by Clyde 45 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I think a good part of it is just normal, worrying stuff. When there is an ex in the picture, we do worry.

He is still with you though, right? If you do feel jealous, you have to remember that it is just a feeling, and at the moment, a feeling not based on any fact.

Maybe you can ask him to limit contact with her?

Best,

Clyde


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