Avatar Posted by stefanie 345 days ago (Question)
they are more or less similar and involve me finding out or realising my partner is unfaithful and/or i realise they are a psychopath, usually both, and i either become enraged or numb or enraged then numb. an example - i dreamt i was talking with my boyfriend and he casually mentioned he met a girl the week before and they got naked massages together. i was horrified and furious, but he did not understand the problem and i went into a rage and beat him up. when i wake up, i cannot determine if it was my current partner or an ex, feels like a morphed figure.. where the man may change but they are all the same. my last boyfriend was a psychpath. it took me 2 years to work that out and i was traumatised from the relationship. my current boyfriend has been great and has given me no reason to doubt him. but i am plagued with paranioa. we have been together a year and are moving in together this week. it is not easy for him to deal with my paranoia and random outbursts. after one of these nightmares.. my feelings from the dream stay with me for a while and it takes some effort to not be angry/disgusted with my partner.
these kind of dreams started 3 years ago, when trust was broken with the ex and continued while i was single for 7 months and now with new partner. i am 24 years old.
could you provide some advice on how i could tackle this problem and be rid of conscious and unconscious fears? it is not enjoyable for me or my partner and impacts our relationship.
thanking you in advance,
stefanie


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Written by Clyde 341 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

To me, it sounds like you are worried that the present boyfriend will be like the ex. You are worrying about how best to proceed. You dont want to continue a relationship in its entirety, because you worry about the outcome of it.

I would definitely recommend discussing this with a therapist who could point you in the best direction.

Best,

Clyde


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