I'm 16 years old and i think I'm addicted to sex i lost my virginity just before my 15th b-day and ever since then i cant stop at first it wasn't so bad it started out that in 9 months i slept with 5 people in January it started to get worse as since January 2008 i have slept with 11 more people i have only been in a relationship with two of the 16 iv slept with and most of them were one night stands. i don't seem to be able to control myself and really sex isn't all that great no guy have ever made me cum or have an orgasm only i have achieved that yet i still love having sex it feels great emotionally at the time but as soon as it's over i feel low again worthless and dirty i hate doing it and i know how I'm going to feel after I've said many times i want it to stop but i don't know how to start. i try so hard to resist but i can't control it. how could i help myself?
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Hi Lee,
To me, it sounds more like a self-esteem issue than a sex issue. You mention a lot about the guys, and how not one of them makes you feel any better, doesnt "make you cum or have an orgasm," and that sex feels great emotionally.
It just seems that it fills a need for you at that time, but you don't necessarily care for it later.
I know you are still younger, but I would tell your parents, or at least try to talk to a school counselor/therapist or therapist about this, and explain the situation to them.
You do seem addicted to sex, yes, but I think it is more the sex replacing the empty hollow feelings you are having in your life.
Best,
Clyde