Avatar Posted by katietv76 35 days ago (Question)
Hi,im katie,im a 33yo crossdresser and have been dressing since i was 11 and have had adult fun with men and other crossdressers and transvestites,but thing is i need to take drugs to get me aroused and horny,but im married and havnt sleeped with my wife for atleast 4 months and only had sex for atleast a handfull in four years.
I love being dressed as a women and have fantasys about being a full time transexual and thats even when i havnt had any drugs,i love being a women and would love to be a wife to man or another tv. I have had sex with other tv and men in the past and love it more than with females. Ive even had a feeling for the past four years to take hormones and grow breasts but im unsure of whats ahead,id also like to after growing breasts to concider full sex change and would like some advice on


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Written by Chemar 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi

have you been honest with your wife about this? Not only is it very very unfair to her to be sharing her partner this way, especially as she is being neglected sexually, but most of all, your promiscuous sex could result in STD for her!!

It may be best for all if you tell her the truth and set her free, as it seems you would rather live your life differently

Written by bellacutie 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree does your wife know about this? How does your wife feel about your sparse sex life? Since your passion is to be with other men who are in the same lifestyle and you admit you're not into women - I think you should do the honourable thing and ask for a divorce. Please be kind and fair with her.

It's also a very bad sign that you need drugs to feel stimulated. You're headed down a rough road if you continue this. We're not doctors or therapists here, so we can't advise with info on procedures for sex change. You need some good advice from a doctor and you need counselling to make sure you're making the right deciions regarding a sex change.

Written by AppleJuiceGirl 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree with the above posters in regards to your wife. I think that splitting up would make you happier and allow you to do the things you want along with letting her go and find a person who actually wants to be with her, emotionally and physically.

The drugs are not very healthy (I'm assuming they're the illegal kind). Are you sure you NEED them to get aroused or do they just make the experience more exciting? If you cannot get aroused without drugs, there may be something medically or psychologically wrong and you might want to speak to a doctor about it. It could also be due to the fact that you feel more like a woman and are disassociated with your penis (I'm also assuming that by aroused you mean erection). That's just a stab in the dark, I'm no doctor.

Medically, I have heard of several sex change surgeries gone wrong. I don't know if that's because you just never hear of the surgeries that go right or because most surgeries have severe complications. If it's something that you truly want, you should talk to a surgeon and do lots of research on the surgeons you're looking at. Biologically, we are born with a sex of either male or female, but GENDER isn't biological and our sex doesn't have to relate to our gender. If it's what will truly make you happy, it's worth looking into. But you should resolve this issue with your wife first.

And as bellacutie said, if you decide to go through with the surgery, make extra sure you're making the right decision.

Written by Fpsy 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi Katie,

I recommend if you haven't already go to see the doctor, and get a referral to the psychiatrist. If you are going to start transitioning you will need to see a psychiatrist for a good period of time. You will need to see someone who specializes in treating transexuals. Hopefully the doctor will know who to refer you too.

As the others have suggested, if you haven't already spoken to you wife, she needs to know what your true feelings are.

Here is a weblink to AlbertaTrans organisation. It has some good information if your considering transitioning from male to female. It might not be relevant to where you live, but there is general information on surgery etc.

http://www.albertatrans.org/mtf.shtml

Written by Clyde 32 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree with the others--does your wife know about this? It is really unfair to her. You two should separate if you do not feel like you love her.

Please be EXTREMELY CAREFUL with sex, and please try to abandon the drugs.

I agree that you need to find a therapist, especially possibly one that can deal with transexuals and see what can go on from there.

Best,

Clyde


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