I've been dating my girlfriend for about 2 years now. The first year wasn't that serious, and problems never occured. We would get into little fights, but nothing too serious. After the first year, things started to get pretty serious. we would spend every day together, and wouldn't be apart from eachother. It wasn't suffocating, we both loved it since we're best friends.
I have a problem, and I don't understand it. When we get into fights, I end up screaming at her. I'm usually not an angry person, it takes A LOT of stress or anger for me to blow my top.
The latest argument is because I saw a guy texting her. This guy clearly likes her and wants to date her, but I know she doesn't want anything to do with him, but she has a great heart and doesn't want to tell him to pound salt. I questioned her about it, just to ask why he was texting her again, and she got very defensive.
I know for sure she would never cheat on me, emotionally or physically, but I was just curious why. I asked her very calmly, but she started to say that I don't trust her, and I began to loose my patience. After about 20 minutes of small fighting, I began to scream at her. I don't know why I do this. I think it's because I'm afraid of loosing the one person I love the most in this world.
How should I handle myself when i get angry? It seems I get angry too easily, and after I scream at her I feel horrible, and like a monster.
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