Avatar Posted by Jewls19 157 days ago (Question)
I am 18 my boyfriend is out of town and is out of money because he spent it on alcohol and pot. He wont be back for an extra two weeks now because he has no money to get back. I think he is going to lose his job and get kicked out of summer school. I have been dreaming about sleeping with other men I used to have relationships with. I don't feel the same about our relationship anymore. Everything is very bland. The sex just doesn't do it for me. I have thought about cheating but I don't want to.


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Written by Molly 157 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi Jewls19

Well, this is simple for me to answer, but I know it's difficult when you have feelings for someone. Trust me, you need to break up with him, but not because you want to have sex with other men. You should break up with him because, I'm sorry, but he sounds like a real loser and his pot and alcohol sound like they're number one and two in his life with you coming in third. If you do break up with him, I would let him know it's because you have higher standards in boys/men. Believe me, he won't change if he thinks you accept his behavior and choices. It sounds like you are definitely over him, but maybe you think about the way he used to be and memories keep you holding on. You are at a turning point in your life and you have to decide if this is the type of guy you want or not. I had a boyfriend for six years and he became exactly how you are describing yours. Even though it was hard to break up, I was totally turned off of him because I wanted a man with higher standards and class. I was 21 before I broke up with him, and it was hard because I was used to him, but not in love with him. I met a man who was doing his internship as a CPA in St. Louis and drove two hours to see me every weekend. We dated for two years and and he treated me like a queen! I have been married to him now for 17 years and we have two great kids together. My life would definitely not have turned out the way it did if I had stayed with my high school boyfriend. He saw me doing well and dating a "classy" man, and it woke him up - either because of jealousy or because it made him look at what a loser he was being. He ended up going back to college like I did(he had dropped out after one year because he wanted to party more at that time) and ended up graduating and marrying a professional business woman too. I know he wouldn't have shaped up if I had stayed with him and neither of us would have the lives we have today. Anyway, that's my story and thoughts on this matter. Good luck and set high standards for yourself.

Written by Edahn 157 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I don't hear any reasons why you should stay with him or want to, so yeah, I think it's time.

Written by bellacutie 156 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree you should leave him and be selective about finding someone else. You're right you shouldn't cheat. GL

Written by Clyde 152 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Yeah, you shouldnt cheat for sure.

But if you want to break up with him, do it. You are part of the couple, right? I mean, its not just him.

Best,

Clyde


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