Avatar Posted by angelxav 2025 days ago (Question)
I'm 15 years old. I've been been chatting with this guy on net for a long time, about 3 weeks..he's I'm my same school but i haven't seen nor met him....he really liked to chat with me n so he decided to meet me n take me on a date sometime later....the time came...he liked what he saw...but he REALLY didn't like me...mainly because i didn't speak much!!!...OMG!!! n now hes not even replying to me....i told him that i was sorry i couldn't me myself there...but he said he didn't have a prob with that....n later on i thought it must have really freaked him out to see a girl who was totally different from the way she chatted...n i asked him whether he was, n he replied that he was a little bit!!!....GOD!!!...i SOOO keep thinking about it...i really like him n i want to give it another chance...but he doesn't seem to want to...he has stopped greeting me by sending messages n all.....WHAT SHOULD I DO????...i think he really doesn't like him, but i just cant accept that!!!


Answers


drjean
2025 days ago
Give it time? I know that isn't the answer you want to hear, but teen relationships often need more time for anything meaningful to take shape.



I'm sorry that your meeting wasn't good like you hoped. He isn't chatting at all with you? If that's so, there isn't much else you can do but move on, right?

Don't push it. Guys really don't like to be pushed, it makes it feel like their mom, you know? Maybe send him one last message, saying it's ok, maybe you can be friends later on again, and hope he will at least wave if he sees you at school. TC
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Clyde
2017 days ago
Perhaps you can give him a bit of time, or just send him a few emails, like Jean mentioned, that you would still like to remain friends, and perhaps you two could at least go to a concert or movie together--something that does not involve as much verbalization at first--in a way that helps you grow strength in your social situations with him.

I am sure it was easier to be social with him when you didnt have to see him face to face, and its just harder to interact...perhaps you both just need time to let the relationship grow?
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Soidhonia
2005 days ago
Hello Angel. When you are on the internet and chatting with someone it is anonymous, and you are able to communicate more openly with a person due to anonimity. Therefore if you still choose to chat with this person, and are still interested in seeing him in person again, then you need to work on building communication skills possibly over the internet to help you feel more comfortable in person when you see him at school. going out on a date where communication is available,(perhaps a restaurant, or movie) is a nice way to introduce yourself without feeling so threatened with having to talk to much. Honesty is also a very necessary objective, so that he does not feel slighted, or feel that you are uninterested. Just tell him that you are interested, but you are going to need some time to learn to communicate with him personally. Take care.
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beatriz
1571 days ago
hey Angel, hows it going? you know what you remind me of myself when i was 15...wow..what a memories..anyways girl,backthen i was sooooooooooooo hungry for love and attention..it was devasting..hope youre not on the same chapter i was..you have a tender and sweet heart, because thats what you are an angel..and sometimes we look por love in the wrong places with the wrong people..hope this lesson doesnt scar you, sometimes you learn the hard way.. and one day when you look back..its was not big of a deal after all...then you can laugh..god knows im still trying..my name is Beatriz..let me know...best wishes.hugs..bye.
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majorconcern
975 days ago
He is NOT worth it if he is that ready to give up on you...... Think if you cared about someone would that be the reason. He sounds like he is not right for you. You have the entire World at your hands, young, caring and do not let this get you! Someone else will love you just the way you are. IT IS HARD TO WAIT-but it is worth the wait.
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CeriDakota
241 days ago
It seems like he's being a bit stupid if i'm honest, he doesn't seem worth it, you have your whole life ahead of you, don't waste your time on someone who doesn't seem worth it, they're is someone out there who will be perfect for you and that person obviously isn't him
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