Hello, my boyfriend and I have been a monogamous couple for the past 6 months. Before then we were 'friends with benefits' because we didn't want anything serious with anyone. Well, push came to shove and he and i clicked really well so we were exclusively seeing each other, although he never stated we were a couple. My bf is 25 (I'm 23)and I've known him for about 4 years prior to getting intimate..he was always real mean to the girls he was with but never with me. Basically, he was a misogynist toward them and didn't care. All that was different when he and i would hang out. I noticed how he showed me respect, even as a friend. It was like I was one of the guys and he was comfortable with that. Anyways...one month into he and i being monogamous, i turn the laptop on to check my facebook and noticed he didn't sign out..so out of curiosity i checked his sent messages. To my surprise, a conversation he held with a young girl barely out of high school! It was nothing sexual but it was much of him telling her how pretty he thinks she is. I immediately confronted him about it, thinking..this relationship would have never worked..he's too set in his ways. My boyfriend didn't deny the message all he could say was how stupid he was for impulsively messaging a 16 year old because her picture was sexy. He hasn't messaged anyone else, that I know of..but to now put someone through the constant worry of "what if"..it's driving me crazy! I'm his first real love and actual relationship and I'm not making it easy for him since I found that. Basically, my boyfriend used to be a big time slut and all that remains in my memory is his nasty past and how i was a witness of how terrible he could treat someone. Does this mean he has potential to treat me the same? It sure does BUT I don't see how he would, I am the antithesis of them.
So my question here is: Is he worth being with despite my heartache? (that innocent flirting via a message felt just as serious as catching him making out with someone at a bar)
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