Avatar Posted by caitthegreat 284 days ago (Question)
I am twenty years old. I've been dating the same guy since March of 2007. When I met him, I immediately picked up on the fact that he was very sexually motivated. A lot of his topics of conversation focused around sex and many of his past actions were with the ultimate goal of sex. However, he told me, and his actions also seemed to reflect, that his time for prowling around hunting for poontang were over, and he was ready to date someone for a while.
For a year, everything was fine. We had a good relationship with open communication and much more stability than most people our age. However, right after our anniversary, as he now tells me, he started to get "antsy." He created profiles on internet hook-up sites like Fling.com to simply prowl around. At the time, when I asked him why, he said it had been set up by a bot. He now tells me he set it up because he thought it would help "curb" some of his feelings.
Fast forward to January 21. When I discovered he'd been sending emails to women off of Craigslist's Casual Encounters, writing that he was sexually unsatisfied with his girlfriend and really needed to have sex with someone else. His explanation: "I had feelings of frustration about our sex life and felt that writing those would help get it out. I didn't plan to do anything." We had a long talk about our relationship, plotted a new course of action, and continued.
One week later. A new email account. Same song, second verse. His explanation: "I have a lot of problems that I haven't told you about because I don't want to make you sad. You don't make me feel needed or wanted. I want to experiment. I want to have more interesting sex. Again, I just thought this would help make the feelings go away." So we talk. For hours. And decide to take some time, go slow, and see if we can improve things.
Yesterday. He's acting strange and can't seem to get away fast enough. I go onto Craigslist and, low and behold, there's a post written in EXACTLY his writing style. I create a fake email address and respond.

Guess who it is?

I call him immediately, enraged, pack up all of his stuff, and tell him to come over. He begins to cry. He tells me that he can't stop fantasizing about other women. He says that his thoughts feel out of control. He can't control who he has these thoughts about or where or when or even what he's doing in them. He says he thought creating profiles on those websites would be enough to sate his desires. When that didn't work, he started the emails. Today, if I hadn't called him, he was planning on cheating. He says, he "needed relief."

So far, I've left him without a definitive answer of what's going to happen. I'm not entirely sure what's going on in his head, and if it's a mental health issue, and I want to make sure he gets the help he needs.

What could make a twenty-three year old man regress into such a puberty driven state? He says his brain feels like it did when he was fifteen.
HELP! What is going on??!


Answers

Written by Clyde 281 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

He isnt thinking with his brain. He is just wanting to have sex with many women, and really doesnt seem that interested in you, sadly.

Best,

Clyde


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