I feel like there's something wrong with me because everytime me and my bf have sex I can never finish! I mean he finishes but I never do plus I have this thing where I'm uncomfortable with him seeing me from behind you know doggy style, he feels if we do it that way I'll be able to finish, but I'm just scared coz I don't have a big behind so I feel like he won't enjoy it or no matter what we try I'll never finish. Before we have sec I'm in the mood & everything but when we're doing it I don't have that same feeling it's like it's good but I'm more in the mood when we're making out and everything. I don't what's going on he brought it up and I just feel like it's all on me & idk how to fix it, he tells me to just relax but I do and nothing happends! How long does it take for a women to orgasm ? Ugh please help.


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justjoanie
1484 days ago
I had this same problem!

Ok, a question for you. Do you orgasm when you masturbate? If you do, then you CAN orgasm, it's just a matter of finding out how your body works. I've never orgasmed while having penetrating sex. I'm now in a relationship with a woman that took her time to find what worked for me. For me, manual clitoral stimulation works. Try to have your b/f use his fingers and hand and stimulate you before you even have intercourse. Once you orgasm, then he can enter you, and the feeling will continue for a little bit. You both will then enjoy sex so much more. If the manual stimulation with his fingers and hand doesn't work, maybe try a vibrator.

Just another bit of information for you..... MOST women don't orgasm soley from intercourse. Most of our orgasms stem from the clitoris, and unless that is being stimulated, you'll have a hard time reaching climax.

I hope this answer helped you. If you want to talk about this more with me, you are more than welcome to PM me.



Xxtrustxx
1484 days ago
well I've tried to masterbate but it doesn't feel good so I stop coz yeah I don't feel much, I'm probably doing something wrong, but he has used his fingers b4 it got me wet but it felt like he was doin it wrong or something coz I was getting annoyed. But I'm new to this website so I don't know what pm is but if u could message me I'd love to have this talk with u & hopefully u could help me



bella
1484 days ago
I agree with Justjoanie - the majority of women don't experience orgasm with intercourse(some do). If you've ever looked at porn they're faking or exaggerating lol. You or your partner needs to stimulate the clitoris before or during intercourse. If you're able to orgasm with masturbation then you're fine. You should also be exploring with masturbation.

You might have a better chance of reaching orgasm, if you're on top and leaning forward a bit. Don't be shy about touching yourself or he can touch you there during intercourse as well. Try not to worry and relax - there's nothing wrong with you.



Xxtrustxx
1484 days ago
well I've tried to masterbate but it doesn't feel good so I stop coz yeah I don't feel much, I'm probably doing something wrong, but he has used his fingers b4 it got me wet but it felt like he was doin it wrong or something coz I was getting annoyed. But I'm new to this website so I don't know what pm is but if u could message me I'd love to have this talk with u & hopefully u could help me



bella
1484 days ago
Usually if a person masturbates correctly it does feel good. The exact point of stimulation should be where the clitoris is - with gentle stimulation. Some people feel embarrassed/uncomfortable pleasing themselves - I'm trying to figure out if you're comfortable with this. There are legitimate sites on the internet about this subject. Some people aren't as knowledgable about their bodies - are you familiar with where the 'clitoris' is located on the female anatomy? I'm trying to be as delicate as possible discussing this. if you have a hand held shower head and let it gently spray in this area - this should bring a pleasurable sensation and signal you which area you should be stimulating. I'm assuming you've never reached orgasm?? Don't worry it's okay to answer.