I have a friend who I rarely see in real life, but who used to reply to my emails. Not all of them, but quite a lot of times she did. Now, ever since Christmas time she has stopped responding to me. I feel a bit hurt by this. I hate it when people don't reply to my emails at all. I think it's rude and inconsiderate. She doesn't seem to have any qualms about not responding to some mails. I suppose we're incompatible regarding this issue. Still, advice is needed. How should I judge the issue of others (not) responding to emails? And if someone's refusal to reply bothers me, what should be done about my relationship with that person? Especially accounting for the fact that she is normally online quite often and I can safely rule out the notion that she may have dropped out from the internet. I feel resentful and ignored. What to do?
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Perhaps she is taking some time out after Christmas. It has not been that long to consider it a non-reply. Give her some more time. It might not be about you. She might need some time to herself. I am sure she will reply when she can and when she wants to.
It could be very well she is busy. I had the same thing happen to me, but my friend was having other issues going on that I didnt know about at that time.
You could also communicate about this to her, and see what she says, but dont be nosy or pushy about it, or it will make it worse.
Things will work themselves out in time.
Best,
Clyde
Thanks. Actually, time has done some correctives in my thinking and here's what I have to say. Last night I had a dream where she threw a party in her house and I happened to step by. Her husband just said hello and I walked to her and she didn't look too comfortable to see me, stating that things have been so difficult lately and that she doesn't have any time for me at all. Or something like that. We exchanged just a few awkward lines and then I woke up. And had a sort of an "a-ha" moment, a spontaneous insight if you will. I felt as if some voice had told me three words: "Leave her alone." So I decided to let go of this thing and considering how I have other more urgent things to worry about than some dumb lack of communicative reciprocation, I decided that I'll indeed leave her alone for quite a while and mind my own business instead. I'm sure that in two months at latest we'll find time for each other again. Ergo, I think the problem is kinda solved now. Thanks to both of you.