Avatar Posted by Stephlo 146 days ago (Question)
Don't know what to do about mu husbands lying ways


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Written by Edahn 146 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Do you think he's cheating or just flirting? The lying about the porn isn't honorable, but I do know a few people who have lied because they're embarrassed, not because they think it's wrong and don't want you to find out. Personally, I think that's excusable if he learned his lesson and agrees not to lie about it anymore. The other stuff about talking to other girls CAN BE more problematic, but you have to tell us what he did, WHY HE LIED (to protect himself, or because he thinks you get jealous and upset), and what you think is going on.

You also want to look at your own behavior in this. Are you extremely jealous? Oversensitive? Are you making it hard for him to be honest or are you open and reasonable? I'm not seeking to excuse his lying, but more to understand where it's coming from.

~E

Written by Stephlo 146 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I will be honest I was brought up in a triditional home you respect your wife and the vows you took. As for why he does it I domt know I ask but all he does is get upset. I was never a jealous person untill I cought him talking to a girl who lived up stairs from us 3 years ago. It got me really jelous when he was calling a girl the dAy we got married. And all these calls were late at night. I am now a very jelous person and I don't like being that way but he also made me that way. Yes I believe he is flirting with them as for cheating I wouldn't doubt he has I don't know for sure like I know for sure about the talking to other girls so I leave that alone and don't really adress it. Hope that kind of helps I'm really at my wits end and need some advise.

Written by Clyde 144 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I can definitely understand being upset about it (his lying), especially since he continues to call girls over and over.

To me, I would basically tell him that if he didnt stop, I would move on.

I would also check out why you are so jealous--where is it coming from? I was raised in a traditional home too, and respecting vows and stuff is very important, yet it does not make a person jealous, it makes them hurt and angry when their spouse does something like that.

Best,

Clyde

Written by Stephlo 144 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I have told him to stop. I talked to him today let him know what he would be losing if it didn't stop he has promised to stop but ive heard it all before and I don't know if this time it's going to be different I hope it will be. As far as me being jelous I don't really know where that comes from it's like I said finding everything out the first tome made me really upset and jelous of the other girl also because I knew she was slot prettier then I was.


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