My need for attention is getting out of hand. I always knew it was a problem but I am about to lose my marriage over it. I need to fix this issue before I end up alone.
I know my need comes from a insecurity from my childhood. I was teased really bad and thought I was ugly. Now that I am older I know I am not ugly but I enjoy the validation. I used to think I would never get a boyfriend so when I did start to date I couldn't focus on just one guy. I didn't really have a father around either. I know all this I just need to know how to get rid of this need.
I have had some butt holes for guy friends but my boyfriends were all great to me and I still couldn't focus on just him. I am now married to a guy that really loves me and I can't shake that old feeling. When I start flirting I just can't stop it. I know it is wrong and i feel bad because I don't want to lose him. He isn't perfect but he treats me good. I don't want to hurt him and stay on this destructive path. I get involved in these guys and I get very wrapped up. I know I am not leaving my husband and yet I push things to such a limit. He said feels like he isn't enough and I just don't know if he might be right. I don't want to cheat but I miss the closeness I had with the other guy badly. Sexually he was better then my husband but my husband is better in every other way. I don't want to destroy my family over this. What can I do to remove this need in me? Any books I can read?
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