Avatar Posted by rscak 27 days ago (Question)
My wife and I have been together for 20 years. She was still in high school when we became exclusive. We have been married for 15 years. I know that I have a jealous streak that I have been working on several years and I believe I am getting better. My wife has caught me looking thru her emails in the past and has gotten very mad accusing me of not trusting her. I have looked thru her cell phone to see who has text her and who's numbers she has. She has male friends who text her and she says they're only friends. She tells me she needs privacy. She's thinking about divorse. How can i fix this? I beleive she still loves me although she tells me she hates me when she is mad at me. I have asked her that maybe we need to see a marriage counsler, someone with an unbiased opinion. She refuses to see one claiming I am the one with the problem not her.


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Written by sfa1 27 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I have to ask has your wife ever given you a reason not to trust her? You seem to have real trust issues with her. I agree that you both need to go to counselling but if she will not go then you should go yourself to help with your trust issues. Maybe once you go to counselling then she will see that you are serious about working on your relationship and then maybe she will join you at counselling. Good luck

Written by Clyde 25 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Howdy.

I definitely do not think it is a good thing to look through her emails and her phone. Of course, she thinks it is you who has the problem. YOU are giving her the reason to believe so!

Why do you feel she is looking for divorce?

Has your wife done anything like cheat on you? If not, why do you feel so? Why do you feel the need to "check up" on her?

See if you both can get to marriage counseling.

Best,

Clyde


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