My parents have been divorced from each other four separate times, the last being over 10 years ago. Each time, my father's infidelity was the reason. After the last time, I decided that I could not take this anymore and cut my father out of my life forever. I saw the pain that it caused both my brother, my mother and myself and couldn't bear his lies or justifications any longer.
Recently however, my mother who has been single since the last divorce has begun a relationship with a married man. She is completely aware of how wrong this relationship is and how this relationship makes me feel and yet she believes that this man is going to leave his wife and be with her and that because she loves him, it is ok. My problem is that I cannot even talk to her anymore. I feel such anger and disappointment that I don't even know what to say when she calls me. Perhaps its seeing her in this light that has changed my relationship with her. She has no intentions of breaking off this relationship and said to me that "if my view of her changed after the first time she was with him, then why should she stop now if she's already disappointed me". I need to know how to get through this and get back to having a relationship with her where I'm not going to be sick to my stomach over how things are between us. Am I wrong to care that this is how she is choosing to live her life?
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