Avatar Posted by princessofGod43 35 days ago (Question)
i was divorced from my husband because he was told by his mistress she was pregnant then he married her then she being married said she had a miscarriage...then he got back in touch with me... but i didn't let him back in..but then three years into their marriage she is finally pregnant...seems because he seems he was slipping away she reall made good on her 3 claims from the past...i was wondering has anyone else gone through anything like this or i would even love to hear from the other woman ..my ex is always trying to contact me...and i am thinking should i move on and forget him or allow him back in...i really need others who know of this plight to respond


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Written by Clyde 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Its a bit hard for us to answer, because we would need more information. I honestly would say that it is up to you whether you would allow him back.

But if he is married, dont even try it. If he gets divorced, and you want him back, that could and would be different.

It sounds to me that this guy is not exactly something to wait for either, though.

Best,

Clyde

Written by princessofGod43 21 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Thanks so much for taking the time to answer this question. I just find it so hard to move on when he showed up every 6 months to a year. We wouldn't have sex but he just seemed to need to hear from me like a medicine for his guilt...and sometimes this thing was so painful to go through i just wanted to talk with others that have experienced it...so i can get through the stages to let go...but thanks for your time and prayers i am sure...God Bless

Written by bellacutie 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree if he's married to her - the only contact you both should have is friendly/civil. Since it's been 3yrs I think you should move on. If he's trying to establish anything beyond friends,you need to set him straight. He doesn't sound like a loyal person at all. It's time you show him you're intending to move on in your life. Good luck, Bella

Written by princessofGod43 21 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Bella i thank you for your time to respond to me...i understand and actually found your comment helpful...I just found the comment that now that he's married her I should be respectful to their marriage...i'm just going to be out because that's what going to happen not because it will respect or not respect her marriage to him. Maybe you meant something else?

Written by Chemar 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

especially now that she is pregnant.....time to move on!

Written by AppleJuiceGirl 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I'm very to sorry to hear about this, it doesn't sound very easy. I have not gone through anything like this myself, but perhaps I can help some.

I'm confused by your question; are you asking whether or not to let him in your life as a friend or as a lover?

Being friends, I think, is okay. But it's really up to you and whether or not you feel comfortable with him in your life. Would it be too painful for you? Are you still in love with him? Do you really not like his new wife? If the answer is yes, then friendship may be very difficult and complicated, not to mention hurtful for you. You don't know what to expect from this man. Is he contacting you because he wants to bury the hatchet and be friends, even apologize? Or is he contacting you because he wants to reconcile? If you do let him back in your life, just be careful. It wouldn't be good for YOU to become the other women in his new marriage, even if it would feel "right" to take revenge.

Written by princessofGod43 21 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

i was actually asking if he left her and came home if i should take him back? He and his relatives have told me he's not happy. I know by myself that shouldn't be a concern of mines if he's happy because he made his bed now he must enjoy the other side of an affair...but because this situation brings confusion when you hear another's pain and of course you will always love your husband or wife...even though they do leave you...but i just wanted to talk with others who maybe have experienced this so i could get closure...it's very hard dealing with this alone....i just feel mayb things won't play on my emotions as much if i had someone to talk to ...thanks howevr to anyone who takes the time to reply


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