How do I get over my husband's emotional affair. I caught my husband texting a 22 year old from his work. He is 41. I haven't been able to read the text because he has erased them but I looked at the phone records. He texted her 2,000 times in 3 weeks. He says that he has stopped but only because I "Nancy Drew"ed and figured it out. I want to love him and forgive him but am so very hurt. Where do I go from here. If I forgive him won't he just think he can do it again?