Avatar Posted by dbain 58 days ago (Question)
My partner is never interesed in sex and says its not me but I am not sure anymore. She loves to look at me and cuddle but thats as far as it goes. I feel so rejected sometimes that now I am putting up a wall. We have talked alittle about it and she claims its medication she is on but wont ask the doc. for anything different so I feel its an excuse. She also changes the subject when we start too talk or gets angry so I don't even mention it anymore. I feel like crying some days cause we have only been together 6 months and it shouldnt be like this, I crave her and I wish she craved me. What should I do?


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Written by Chemar 58 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi

it doesn sound like something is affecting her and yes, it may well be the medication.

she needs to talk to her doctor, not just for the sake of your relationship, but also for her own health's sake.

it may also help for you to go together for counseling to see if a neutral environment may help her to open up more about what is going on to be causing this, if it isnt found to be a side effect of the med

Written by dbain 58 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Thank you Chemar for your Answer, I know this is a side effect to her meds. and she knows it is. What hurts me is she wont ask the doctor if there is something else that can be done. I fear that she will not talk to a counseler for several reasons. I guess I was hoping for some insight how to approach her a differant way in the privacy of our home. Thank you for your help

Written by Chemar 58 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

The very best way to approach her at home IMHO would be in a very calm and pleasant setting. Maybe after a meal or when you are both relaxed.

the important thing is not to get her defensive by being accusatory. Rather than "you need to" or "this is how I feel" or "you are doing xyz" type of comments, maybe try to rather ask how she feels etc. More showing your love and concern for her first and foremost, rather than presenting how this is hurting you and your feelings, hard as that may be, as I know you are hurting too.

Hopefully that will lower her from defensive and upset mode to being more open and receptive

Written by dbain 58 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Thank you, I will try that approach...wish me luck.

Written by Clyde 46 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I definitely think that the meds could be affecting it--but if it is, why is she afraid to find out?

Best,

Clyde


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