My wife and I have been married for almost 14 years now, our marriage started out really rocky, i was in an accident and had surgery and was medicated to a point where i didnt know if i was coming or going. I ended up getting into a fight with her and somehow police got involved and i said she was abusing our son at that time was 1 year old. Since then its been almost over 13 years since that day and i have never disrespected her in any way shape or form, infact i treat her like a queen i do everything for her, cook, clean, laundry, take care of kids even though my only down fall is its hard for me to hold a job i am not a slob that doesnt want to work i find myself having a job for about 1 1/2 - 2 years and end up getting let go or laid off. other then that our marriage has had the normal ups and downs with fiances, etc. but about a month ago i wanted to surprise her and install a photo of our family on her background on her phone and when i opened the phone there was a text message on it and it was a conversation she and one of her male friends had been texting back and forth at first i saw just a little chat didnt think nothing about it and then i started scrolling down and it turned into a hard core sexual chat something you would see in a porn or somethng so i confronted her about it and she said it was a game that they were playing and she doesnt even know why she did it but it was stupid and it wont happen again. I was like ok! So about two week ago i seen a page open on the computer in facebook and i noticed that she had been calling him babe, mi amor which is spanish for my love and then she put a password on her phone and now i got an email from someone with a screen shot of a post she sent him with a photo of a man holding his penis and shes making a comment the it reminded her of his penis. so i again confronted her about the photo and she told me it was a game and shes doesnt know how to stop. and she admitted to me that she has felings for this guy both physically, sexually but has not acted on them and has not had sex with him and told me that she would never leave me for another man that if she left me it would because of our marriage strugling, she told me that she is having a hard time letting go of the past that happened over 13 years ago and we have 2 kids 13 and 6 and i want our marriage to work out i love her very much....so i guess my question is is she cheating or is it a game and what should i do?????
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