hello sir,my gf tol lot of lies to me.I love her sincerely.she tried to hide something from me.i cant able to find the truth.if i asked anything then she told another lie..what can i do and how can i get the truth from her..
help me........
help me........
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i know how you feel and what your going through. i didnt the same thing to my boyfriend which i feel terrible about. it really cause problems with us but were back on track now. what you really have to think about is how much she really means to you. also you have to consider how serious the lies are. if they are about minor things try to just talk to her about how she feels about the things and dont force too hard to get the truth out. let her tell you when shes ready. if they are still minor things you want to try to get her used to telling the truth before she tries to hide something major from you. also try tell her the truth about something. or reasure her that you are always telling the truth and that you are always there for her. sometimes it just takes time and you have to be patient. the worst possible thing to tho is to get mad at her for it. never yell because it may just cause her to keep it from you more. tell her exactly how you feel about it all. well i hope that helps. good luck !
Sethu, if you already know that she has lied to you, what good is it to continue to ask her about it (them) ? What decisions will you make if she does talk to you about her lying? I mean, what will you do differently after she tells you that she has or has not lied, than what you are doing now?
If she admits she has lied, will you leave her?
If she insists she has not lied, will you stay? Will you ever believe her again anyway?
You have a lot of thinking to do. You can only change who you are, and how you act. You can not change her. You need to think about if you can have a good relationship with her, knowing what you think you know.
good wishes
drjean
Howdy, Sethu
First, sir, I must ask, do you want this relationship to continue? If she continues to tell you lies, you must check that out for yourself. I can completely understand you not wanting to leave the relationship, however; if she has told you a lot of lies, how do you know that she is really interested in you to begin with?
You can ask her for the truth, telling her that you are worried about where the relationship is headed, and let her know that you would like the both of you to start back on common ground. Hopefully, she takes you up on the offer and it goes from there.
Best of luck!
Clyde