Avatar Posted by bobkat 115 days ago (Question)
My problem is with a friend that likes to make my business her business and is always wanting to be right. I could be having a conversation with another individual and she will but in take over and feels the need to explain or rearrange
the discussion, inevitably making you look as if you don't know what your'e talking about and your'e looking and or feeling incompetent.


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Written by Fpsy 114 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

Can you talk to your friend? are you able to tell her in a gentle way that you feel incompetent when she interrupts the conversation your having to correct you and this frustrates you and you don't enjoy her company when she does this and you would prefer it if she sat and listened while you talk to others.

Confronting people is hard you feel like you don't want to upset people or make them angry. But if we don't be assertive then things never change.

Your friend might get upset and annoyed if you do speak to her. She might also storm off and be angry with you, she might even go so far as to say she won't be your friend anymore.

But the alternative to not saying anything is to put up with her behavior hoping, getting more and more frustrated and more and more angry, hoping she will change. But she hasn't changed yet, and she probably won't.

You'll feel much better if you approach her calmly and tell her how you feel and what she is doing and what you would like her do to.

You can rehears it to yourself before you actually do it.

Good luck and I wish you well.

Written by bellacutie 114 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree with Fpsy's great advice that you need to delicately tell your friend your feelings. It could be that she's not aware of this bad habit or if she is, then all the more reason to put her in her place. I agree rehearsing it is a good idea. Learning how to be asssertive is a good tool to have in life. Best of luck.

Written by Clyde 114 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Tell her your feelings about how she is behaving, and I wouldnt talk to her too much about my issues or anything, if I could afford to do so.

The less she knows the better chances you have with her not blabbing it all over.

Best,

Clyde


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