Avatar Posted by fatamorrighan 108 days ago (Question)
I met a man from morocco, he was going to college in the USA. We became very close, we fell in love. When his visa expired, he had to go home. He decided it was easier to get a canadian visa, get job, and the get the proper visa to return to the USA.
He did get to canada, but could not find work there. He became depressed and unhappy. We have not been together for two years, we talk online or on the phone, but that is not the same thing.
His family started yo pressure him to come home, and I am here in the USA eager for his return. He started withdrawing and started asking me if I would live in Morocco, which I cannot. Then he sends me an email saying he doesnt know what to do because his desision will hurt someone, and he needs time alone to think. I havent heard from him for a week now.
Do I keep waiting? Do I tell him to choose? I know this is hard for him but I think his family is taking advantage of his bad position. We are different faiths and different cultures, but we somehow fell in love. I belive a couple that works together can overcome anything. I fear he will go home, and leave me, but I hope for his return. Am I hanging onto something that is no longer there? I dont know what is left to do.


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Written by bellacutie 108 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

I'm going to be very honest - just let him go. I married(27yrs ago) a man from the middle east/different faith and felt pressured to convert to his religion. Most families from that region are passionately against their son's marrying North American women and you would need to convert and raise your children that way. If his family came to visit they would be very judgemental of everything you do. I'm sure, as we speak they are trying to convince him to marry someone there. Also if he immigrates to the USA he will always be longing for his family and try to bring them to the US. Your love will eventually fade amidst all the problems you will have. I'm speaking from experience and seeing other women. Let him go. Sorry I couldn't give you hope. Bella

Written by katrineme7 108 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree 100% with Bella, let him go. You don't even have to make a final decision but do date other men. He may not even still be the same person still. He has not seen you in two years. This is not a relationship and if he truly were that much in love with you, he 'd do anything to see you. katrin

Written by katrineme7 108 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree 100% with Bella, let him go. You don't even have to make a final decision but do date other men. He may not even still be the same person st. He has not seen you in two years. This is not a relationship and if he truly were that much in love with you, he 's do anything to see you. katrin

Written by Edahn 108 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

You haven't been together for two years and you don't talk the same anymore, anyway. It sounds to me like it's already over. I think letting him go might be easier, but it's your decision.

Written by Clyde 89 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree--I do think it is over. I think sitting around and waiting for a gold light to strike him on the forehead and him to come to his senses may be a little long in the tooth, so to speak.

Best,

Clyde


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