Avatar Posted by chiguy34 47 days ago (Question)
My gf is 40; I'm 39. She married at 22 and divorced at 31. I've never been married. Her ex is an alcholic who was abusive pyschologically and emotionally plus physically at least once. At the end of her marriage, she had an affair with a married neighbor. She cut it off at 6 mo and filed for divorce at about 3 mo. My big concern is will she cheat again?


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Written by Chemar 46 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi

that really isnt something anyone can know for sure., tho just because she made the bad choice of having an affair with a married man, when she too was still married, that doesnt mean she will do so again, especially when she was in an abusive relationship with her husband and so likely seeking comfort and validation from the other man. Doesnt make what she did right, but maybe gives it some perspective

If you want the relationship with her to work, maybe just appreciate that she was honest with you about her past and try to focus on the now with her. only time will tell, so just give it your best and help her feel loved and appreciated

Written by Fame 45 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

"Will they cheat again?" is a question that can really only be taken case by case. You would know a lot better then any objective viewpoint. One thing you should look out for is regret. If she shows remorse, then its a lot less likely to happen again then if she purely feels justified. If she feels justified in cheating, then who's to say you won't mess up and give her "justification" to cheat on you? A rule to live by is to judge someone not by their mistakes, but how they handle them.

hope I was some help to you

Fame

Written by Clyde 44 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

No one ever really knows--do you have some kind of worry that she will?

Do you have reasons to think she will, if not, I would just let it go.

Best,

Clyde


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