Avatar Posted by cici88 945 days ago (Question)
My question involves sex. I'm not sure if I need to go to a counselor or not and that is the problem. I feel like my thoughts on sex are abnormal or maybe I don't know what is normal and what isn't. Things have happened in the past that have made me a little confused...such as molestation by a woman when I was young ( btw: I'm a woman, I'm 20 now.) Sexual harrasment from my cousin in middle school and molestation that happened twice in highschool by a guy in my class...Currently, I watch lesbian porn because of my natural cravings for sex..and think, maybe I just watch it because I'm uncomfortable with sharing that moment with a guy? of course, I'm not lesbian? and I want to stop but, I can't. Should I go see a counselor? I have also been heavily involved with things that alter my way of thinking lately, searching for a way out through overdose on pills/cigarette's...i'm scared to tell my parents ...and I just am not comfortable with certain ideas about sex. Most guy's I meet think I'm afraid of commitment, iv'e never been in a relationship, I don't think I'm afraid...only confused.


Answers


dreamgirlchristina
945 days ago
Of course your confused you have been through alot. You should see at least a therapist to talk through these things.You do need somewhere to talk about everything and get some Ideas on how to cope. I think your doing really good for what happened to you.
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psychsquad
945 days ago
sex is best experienced with another person. porn is meant to stimulate and tantalize, I think the company of another will be more engaging and satisfying and you won't feel like you can't stop. Most early childhood sexual encounters will stay with us, you may be more submissive (harrassable) because that is the role you learned from your molestation, and frankly there is no other role for children--put in a sexual situation. Realizing this, I think you can consciously become more confident so that harrassers don't choose you. You may have to drop the labels and accept who you are/interested in sexually. I'm not sure what you meant by being heavily involved with things altering your way of thinking. But you can start trying to meet people instead of relying on porn. Being fearless is an awesome talent, try meeting a girl or a guy before you rent another movie or find another porn site. best,
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dusky1
944 days ago
Sex is a huge thing regardless of how 'out there' it is, and each individual's thoughts on it varies greatly. You just need some experience, because you don't have much, ur probably intimidated by it. Once you start having sex, then it won't seem so scary.

You should see a therapist about ur suicidal thoughts and to help deal with your past, but I think you'll be fine once you keep at it...

All the best.
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Chemar
944 days ago
Hi

you certainly have been thru a lot as a child and yes, this can have affected how you react now

if you dont feel comfortable telling your parents the details then just tell them there are things seriously bothering you and you need to see a psychologist to work thru them

when past events impact our future so intensely, professional help is the best option to move forward

hope things work out for you
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Clyde
944 days ago
Hi there. Yes, it definitely sounds and seems like you have been through a lot. Can you find a way to let your parents know about what happened?

If not, you could do as Chemar said, and just tell them there are issues you are trying to work through.

I too think that professional help is your best way to go with this.

Best,

Clyde
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smack
941 days ago
Sex between women is incredible, if you're mature enough for it.

Your molestation issues will need to be dealt with first, at any rate. My sympathies.
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sweeney11
924 days ago
You should try speaking to some sort of therapist(or even a friend). But you won't find any answers by taking mind altering drugs, if anything, that is only setting you back from discovering who you want to be. Don't let what happened to you in the past define your life. Your thoughts on sex aren't "weird" and i don't think anybody will be able to change the way you view sex(theres nothing wrong with you) everybody veiws it differently. You're confused, and thats entirely understandable but speaking from personal expierience, once you talk about it with someone that you truly feel comfortable with, things will start making more sense.
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