I am 5 weeks into a new relationship so I know it is very early days for us. We both came out of long term relationships last year. Our first 4 weeks were very intense, we've even booked a holiday with our kids. All our respective children have met each other and get along great. His parents do not accept he is in a new relationship as they think it is too soon. Where as my parents accept that i am in a new relationship. Very early into the relationship my new partner brought up the fact that he loved me and i told him i felt that way too. In fact I have never felt this way about anyone, not even my ex husband or partner. I feel so relaxed in his company and can talk about anything to him. He broached the subject of living together sometime in the future which was something that we both hoped would happen. I have even met his ex wife as she wanted to know who her 2 girls were going on holiday with, quite understandable and i was quite happy to do this.
The other night when we ended our phone conversation i said i loved him - no answer - he said he felt funny about saying it as he now thinks it is too soon. He said not to worry about it and not read too much into it. He thinks he loves me and says he has very strong feelings for me. He wants to slow the relationship down a bit as it is going too fast. He is still wondering if he has just grabbed the first person that has come along and wants to slow things down to let our relationship develop naturally. We have only talked to each other briefly for the last 3 days due to his work commitments. I did ask him today if i should be worried about what he said the other night and he said no. However i feel gutted, I understand where he is coming from but can't help thinking this is the start of the end and he is having second thoughts and is trying to let me down gently. I can''t get this feeling out of my head, I can't concentrate on anything or eat. I know i need to try and see sense. We have so much in common and get on great when we are together. Advice please!
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