Avatar Posted by kellygo 33 days ago (Question)
Do I tell my son my opinion? His 40 year old fiance told him that her mother living with them when they are married is non-negotiable. He has agreed to that. They sound controlling and manipulative. He sounds like an abuse victim. His father was abusive and I left him early in life.


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Written by bellacutie 33 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I don't think there's anything wrong with telling your son your opinion. How does he feel - if he's not comfortable then maybe he should postpone the wedding. Does his fiance work and will the mother be contributing finacially to the household?? I would be wary of statements like 'non-negotiable'. He should only comply if he wants to, not because he feels forced. Best of luck

Written by Chemar 33 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

phew...I agree with Bella in that you certainly can talk to your son about this in a gentle way to be sure he is ok with this arrangement.

having MIL move in with newly weds is really not the best idea IMHO unless both husband and wife agree that this is what they want. If his fiance is laying down the law this way already, welp...I feel sorry for him when he has to deal with the united mom & daughter team vs him!!

I hope he thinks this thru carefully before getting married.

Written by Clyde 32 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I think telling him is not a bad thing, however; you wont be able to make the final thing in this issue, and I hope you understand that.

I hope he does think it through as well.

Best,

Clyde

Written by Thisisit 29 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I certainly don't think it's a good idea, but it's his life. Share your opinions, but then respect his.


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