Avatar Posted by rageswitt 48 days ago (Question)
I love her very much and do not think of other women when I am around her. When she is gone I think I become anxious or possibly feel abandoned. Without acknowledging the consiquences I find myself at times, with out her company,looking for the company of other women online. I do not want to do this stuff but I always seem to find myself doing it and think in regret later.
I think this is also tied to my compulsive masterbation. I feel that if I do it, it will make me relax or calm down when I am tense, and it seems to be a battle to stop doing that also. I beleive this is taking passion from my relationship too.
I do not beleive I am a peice of shiz and I would really like some help to become the man I know I am.
I do have a lot of underlying issues that may have contributed to these disorders or what I am going through.
Please help aqnd thank you anyway if you think I am an idiot.


Answers

Written by Chemar 48 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi

good that you care so much for your lady that you want to be the best you can for her :) I think you are wise, and certainly not dumb to do so!

If your online companionship and masturbation are drawing away from the fullness of your relationship with her, and leaving you troubled, then yes, it would be good to try to find help in controlling it. It would probably hurt her if she knew you were having cyber relationships so that really isnt worth risking losing her over is it?

You mention you have "underlying issues" and yes, those may well be contributing to the compulsive stuff.

If you feel comfortable talking here, we can try to listen and help where we can

If it really begins to seriously impact your life tho, do consider one on one therapy. Often talking through all these things with a professional can really help to get things in perspective and bring relief

all the best

Written by Clyde 45 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

I dont think you are an idiot at all. You are very nice to care so much for her that you ask questions for her and you.

You may need to talk to a therapist about your underlying issues and go from there.

Have you told her?

The one on one therapy could definitely be a good thing.

Best,

Clyde


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