Avatar Posted by stressedoutpreggo 390 days ago (Question)
I am 29 weeks pregnant and have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. Just recently he started acting different. He has always been a cuddler and when it came to being close to each other sexualy he'd be the first to make the move. But all has changed me being pregnant and the thought of me being chubby afterwards turns him off. I let him know I am still in the mood for the sexual stuff so he don't go find it else where. But he seems to not wanting to be near me at all. He has a computer which is in the babys room for now and has internet. tried to get him to move it in our room but he hated the whole idea of it. Well just the other day i walked out of the bedroom and caught him doing things that i didn't like. So i knew he was looking at porn. It just made me sick. I made it seem like I didn't catch him in the act and played it cool even though I tried fighting back tears. I went to the bathroom came out and went to my room and he was there on the bed and asked if i had wanted to have sex. I said sure even though I wanted to just scream at him. But i didn't because i was still playing it cool. but afterwards i pretended to have fallin asleep with my back turned to him he began doing what i had caught him doing when he was in the other room. I just layed there and quietly cried. but as soon as i turned towards him still pretending to be sleep he stopped and turned the other way. He acts as if he doesn't even want to be with me anymore. he has had pictures of his ex for half the year we were together and he finally let me throw it out. But i had found a picture of him and her kissing on his computer... I just have a feeling that he's cheating on me. I have no one to talk to and I just get real lonely and sad. I hate to be depressed all the time being pregnant. So am I going nuts or could he be cheating?


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Written by mouse53 389 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

You are a smart woman, you know him probably better than you allow yourself to believe. Is it the porn that bothers you or the thought that "he could possibly even look at another woman" while you are carrying his child. The way I see it is that it is apples and oranges. One has nothing to do with the other. It is quite possible he has fears of hurting you (love, care, and concern)or the baby (love, care and concern) a common fear unspoken in "manland". And has chosen a path in no way intended to hurt you (porn) to satisfy his manly man need for primal "sex". No need to allow those "baby making" hormones to lead you to the wrong conclusion. You know your man. . .regardless of what you tell yourself or anyone else tells you. Talk to him, so long as it is not "kiddy" porn, or porn addiction I don't think there is anything you need to worry about.

Written by Edahn 389 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Based on what you said here, it sounds like he's just lookin' at porn. If it really bothers you, you should tell him and see if you both can come up with a creative solution on how to spice things up in the bedroom. Maybe some role playing, or some hot outfits, or videotaping yourselves. Whatever, it doesn't matter. The point is, be honest with yourself, don't hide your feelings, start communicating, and think of solutions that help the BOTH of you arrive at something that's fun and practical.

Written by Clyde 386 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

It could be that he is looking at porn just because you are pregnant, and he misses the way it was.

However; discuss this with him--it does not mean that he doesnt love baby, it could just be he misses you. (The attention that was just between the two of you...)

Best,

Clyde

Written by davide1982 182 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi! I recommend to use below short check-list to reveal if he cheats or not. In case at least 5 of signs exist then he's 90% cheating.

http://www.myhowtoos.com/en/common-howtoos/55-how-to-know-if-he-cheats


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