i met my ex bf at school, im older than him, im 28 and he's 20. He came to me first and wanted to date me. We had a really good time at first, then i feel like he completely ignored me. I take care of him, but it seems like he doesn't appreciate that. we saw each other every day before, then he said that he is so busy to spend time with me, we barely see each other even we live in the same dorm. I'm the only one who wants to make this relationship better but not him even he was the one who wanted to start this relationship. I went home for Christmas break and he hadn't called me but once. I kept calling him and complainted about this. I only wanted him to care about me just a little bit, just call me everyday even 5 mins to see how im doing and to make me feel that i have a bf, but he said he wasn't ready for relationship and he wanted to be friend. He said he loves me before but when i asked him if he loves me or not, he said he was attracted to me but that wasnt love at all. i have to say this, im the only asian girl at school and have a good looking. somehow i just feel that he wanted to be with me because im pretty and because im being the only asian in town. he worked hard to get me, then when he had me, he changed. We don't have anything in common but i tried a lot in this relationship. we had great time together before and now im hurt really bad. i still love him and don't want to lose him. please help me to get him back?
Written by kittenkirk 306 days ago
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"If you love something/someone set it free, if it comes back it's yours if it doesn't it never was". You may have been some kind of conquest. You deserve a man that has true intentions. He wants to be friends? I think you'd be better off making new friends. He seems cruel. He doesn't even call you on Christmas break. Move on to a better man. There are plenty. Just give time time. And know that you've learned a lesson in life. Some people just have an agenda...
Written by snoop40 305 days ago
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I believe he was just using you for a booty call
dump him !!! and try to get over it!
you sound like a great girl
he will be sorry
Written by Clyde 304 days ago
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Sorry to say, but it does sound like he doesnt want to be back with you. You may have to try and find a way to move on.
Best,
Clyde
Written by stitlskin 302 days ago
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i think kittenkirk is right in every sense... if u love him accept that u can loose him. and anyway u don't need a person that uses u and later dumps u as a piece of trash. and don't feel guilty about it, you're not like him, because you know how t o give yourself to somebody
Written by Azumi 301 days ago
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Thanks a lot guys for the advices. I'm feeling much better now. Obviously that I'm deserved better than this. You are right, there're a lot of fishes in the ocean, Next time i will catch a good one.
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"If you love something/someone set it free, if it comes back it's yours if it doesn't it never was". You may have been some kind of conquest. You deserve a man that has true intentions. He wants to be friends? I think you'd be better off making new friends. He seems cruel. He doesn't even call you on Christmas break. Move on to a better man. There are plenty. Just give time time. And know that you've learned a lesson in life. Some people just have an agenda...
I believe he was just using you for a booty call
dump him !!! and try to get over it!
you sound like a great girl
he will be sorry
Sorry to say, but it does sound like he doesnt want to be back with you. You may have to try and find a way to move on.
Best,
Clyde
i think kittenkirk is right in every sense... if u love him accept that u can loose him. and anyway u don't need a person that uses u and later dumps u as a piece of trash. and don't feel guilty about it, you're not like him, because you know how t o give yourself to somebody
Thanks a lot guys for the advices. I'm feeling much better now. Obviously that I'm deserved better than this. You are right, there're a lot of fishes in the ocean, Next time i will catch a good one.