My feelings are not the same for my husband after all that has happened, would just like to hear others opinions.
Me and my husband have been together since we were 15 now were 29 and have two kids ages 3 and 5. The past seven yrs have been hard he is controlling on what i wear, my friends, who i go out with and if i go out without him it's a huge fight. He was never really genuinly happy treated his friends better then the kids and me and I repeatedly told him he was losing me for these reasons. Well to move on about a year ago a friends girlfriend ended up catching my husbands attention to the point he would lie about things that involved her and if she was having problems with her relationship he was there for her but never me i think he had an emotional affair and thats eating away at me and i can't trust him any more. My feeling fro him just aren't the same and we have been in marriage counsleing for almost a year now.
Me and my husband have been together since we were 15 now were 29 and have two kids ages 3 and 5. The past seven yrs have been hard he is controlling on what i wear, my friends, who i go out with and if i go out without him it's a huge fight. He was never really genuinly happy treated his friends better then the kids and me and I repeatedly told him he was losing me for these reasons. Well to move on about a year ago a friends girlfriend ended up catching my husbands attention to the point he would lie about things that involved her and if she was having problems with her relationship he was there for her but never me i think he had an emotional affair and thats eating away at me and i can't trust him any more. My feeling fro him just aren't the same and we have been in marriage counsleing for almost a year now.
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Hi Simplicity,
Has the marriage counseling changed anything at all? How many sessions have the two of you attended together and discussed things together?
One year wouldnt be so bad, but it depends on how much work you two got out of it before you decide it in that way.
I also agree that you and your husband do have alot of issues from what you are saying. You may have to talk to him more and get him to understand how you are feeling or that you may leave him. What would he say then?
Best,
Clyde
Just in the last 4 days he has decided to stop obsessing over what I wear( lets see how long that last), and he doesn't talk to the girl that he was showing all the attention to (she works in the cleaners behind his work) otherwise the big change I have seen is that he knows that I'm not going to be around forever if things don't change. To answer your questions on how many sessions we have had, we go once a week separately. I do talk to him alot and tell him my feelings but he just wants me to get over all that has happened and what still goes on and put my all into it, I just don't feel that way I can't forget what happened, it eats at me I feel as if he is being his selfish self. I have been pretty honest with him about how I feel sometimes I'm so confused about my feeling I don't voice them b/c I don't want to hurt his feelings if I'm not 100% sure about all this craziness going through my head but he does know if things don't change,my feeling for him are not the same or I still don't have trust in him I won't stay.