Avatar Posted by confused625 50 days ago (Question)
i have been in relationship for 5 years. he is always lieing, i caught him 3 years ago cheating and trying to meet up on line. i made mistakes 2. 5 months ago i moved 400 miles from him. while we were seperated he went back on line. the problem is we got back together, but he didn't stop looking for other women.he was texting a girl,and he told me he stopped. he didn't. i am 37, 2 kids, he is 28. i think i am his first real girlfriend.i keep saying without trust we have nothing, he says let me build the trust, i have tried to let him in the past and he has failed.i really am trying 2 be strong this time.but it hurts so much. i keep talking 2 him and listening 2 his excuses.i don't want 2 hurt him but he didn't care if he hurt me.i feel so stupid that i can not end it 4 good. please help me..


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Written by Chemar 50 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi

so sorry he is treating you this way

I think you already know the answer to your question....

he appears to be a habitual cheater.

if you stay, you will continue to be hurt by it, and living with that could be very destructive to you emotionally, and possibly also impact your children, as when mom is hurting, it tends to trickle down.

IMHO without trust, a relationship is on sinking sand.

hoping you are able to move forward with your life, and leave this hurt behind.

Written by pickled 49 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I think you need to move on. He is 10 years younger than you are. You have already had children, and I think he needs to go out and explore his youth. This was probably inevitable from the start. Your both at very different stages in your life. Anybreak up will hurt, though you will heal and you will find love again. You will find love again with a mature man who is settled within himself. Big hugs and good luck.

Written by Aneohoh 49 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

STOP being a victim. Get a life....your life. W

Written by Clyde 45 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Wait a minute, you are thinking you are his first girlfriend when he has cheated on you? He is a cheater!

If you cannot trust him, why stay with him? He appears to be just using you, sadly.

Your self-esteem is so low that you do not want to believe you are worth it.

Find someone who can and will love you for you and not just for when they want someone to have sex with.

Best,

Clyde


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